Dear Enchantment-seeking Journeyers,
What three things top your list when it comes to making your celebration complete on Thanksgiving Day? You know I never ask you to go anywhere that I’m not willing to go myself, so I’ll share my answers.
- Family (which includes friends)
You know we’ve been focusing on distinguishing our fantasies about the “perfect” Thanksgiving vs. what the likely reality involves. This week we select three things that will make us feel complete about our Thanksgiving Day celebration. It helps if we can also diminish stress, avert disappointment and simplify our lives.
For me, family is first. Gathering together and enjoying each other’s company is key, an enchanted key at that. Gratitude for being a family and for the food we share seems like a natural progression.
Several years ago, while in my twenties, I moved to southern California by myself and was alone on Thanksgiving, unable to get a plane ticket home. I had planned to celebrate with friends who spontaneously decided to go camping for the week. I stayed behind. Long story short, I didn’t defrost the Cornish Game Hen in time, there was a power outage, and I had no electricity for several hours. I ended up eating slices of jelled cranberry and applesauce. Pretty pathetic. Still, I was grateful for friends, family, and a lovely place to live.
Once I got married, our house became been the host home. I have done most, if not all, of the cooking myself over the years, and I’ll admit that in the past, I’ve prepped, cooked, decorated and cleaned with the Dragons of Perfection (and Stress) breathing fire on me.
As our kids have grown, and I’ve developed the Enchanted Keys and learned to use them every day, I’ve had much more help in the kitchen and I love sharing the space. Variations to traditional dishes are embraced, using the Enchanted Key to Altered Perceptions about the way it is “supposed” to be. I delegate chores. It doesn’t matter so much if the game is on in the other room or if people lovingly make fun of me for naming nearly everyone I know and why I’m grateful to have them in my life. Each person at the table offers gratitude and there is less perceived pressure on me when I’m not the sole keeper of the memories that get made.
I invite you to think about what three things would make your Thanksgiving special. Building on last week’s post, see if you can align them with your reality, and make the day truly one of thanks giving and joy.
As always, we love to hear your thoughts so please post a comment on the Enchanted Blog.
Happy Thanksgiving to all of you.