Silent when others demean you? Does this describe you?
The focus this week is on #6 of Ten Signs You Are A Doormat.
Allowing others to demean you by staying silent.
Over at the Enchanted Blog there are Ten Enchanted Keys to help you banish stress and create life as the Enchanted Journey it is intended to be. It doesn’t matter where you started out on the path. What does matter is where you CHOOSE to go now.
REASONS YOU STAYED SILENT AS A CHILD
There are many reasons you chose to stay silent when others demeaned you.
-You were taught to remain silent.
-You may have received negative consequences for speaking up and challenging the authority person that demeaned you.
-You felt powerless.
-You felt worthless.
YOU WERE VERY WISE
In using Enchanted Key #2 to Altered Perceptions, you can discover that you were very wise to remain silent. That may have saved your life. In the face of a Narcissist, an alcoholic or drug-addicted personality, an immature adult, or one who suffers from low self-esteem and feels out of control, a child is no match. Even as an adult, it’s challenging to deal with these individuals who don’t acknowledge a problem.
Sometimes silence is the safest and wisest choice.
WHAT TO DO TO HEAL NOW
As an adult, you can recognize the wounding that your inner child experienced. Rather than use your energy to blame the perpetrator, offer support and compassion to your tender inner self. You may have no role model from childhood, but there are plenty of us who can provide validation and recognition through our blogs and social media posters that let you know you’re understood and not alone. The Society For Recovering Doormats is one home, as is my Enchanted Blog @drterrysegal.com
Pat yourself on the heart and say, “It wasn’t your fault. You were wise to remain silent in the face of their demeaning criticism. They were talking to themselves through you. You just didn’t know that.” Now you know. That powerful information can break the spell.
Keep reminding yourself of that truth.
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