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Key 5: Reduced Clutter

Emotional Clutter-Clear it Out by Honoring Your Boundaries

Emotional Clutter

Emotional Clutter got you down? You owe it to yourself to take stock of it. A Lakota woman told me that the Native Americans have a saying, “Cut the corn that doesn’t grow.” Referring to corn stalks, a healthy, strong stalk can’t thrive if there are small ears of corn at the base that will never be sweet or big enough to eat. They will feed no one. All they do is rob the healthy stalk of energy and need to be trimmed away.

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Be the Healthy Stalk

Just like the small ears of corn rob the stalk, so do relationships in your life that are not healthy. They drain your energy. If another person compromises your spirit, self-esteem, or safety, then step away from them. Do you have energy vampires (aka Dragons) in your life? They are people who consume your energy and use your precious life force for themselves. Most often it is because we let them. Send them blessings but trim the stalk.

What Hooks You?

If removing yourself completely from association with certain people doesn’t seem realistic, then at least create strong boundaries around yourself and stick to them. Notice how they hook you and what need inside of you is fed that allows it.

How to Cut the Corn That Doesn’t Grow

Awareness is always the first step in solving an issue or making a change. Become aware of your emotional blocks that clutter the path to enchantment. Observe yourself in communication with others or your patterns in avoiding, defending, arguing, etc. Then assess what you would like to change. Take action toward making those changes.

Sun Bear Ojibwa Medicine Man

Sun Bear Ojibwa Medicine Man is quoted as saying, “I am not interested in your philosophy if it doesn’t grow corn.” With intention, invite only those into your life who nurture your spirit, co-create peaceful harmony and support the Highest Good of all concerned.

Enchanted Breath

For this midweek’s Enchanted Breath, let’s focus on cutting the corn that doesn’t grow. Take a deep and cleansing breath in, hold for the count of four, and release. Again, please. Let your tension melt away. Allow the awareness of relationships that do not serve you to rise. Put the people who drag you down, use you, under-appreciate you, and devalue you, in a rose-colored circle. Even if some are family members, that’s okay. Move their circle farther away from you.

Your Rose-Colored Circle

Now see yourself in a rose-colored circle of your own. Feel the expansive space, room to stretch and breathe, without all of the others crowding you in your space. Notice the boundary between your bubble and theirs. Breathe deeply in your space. Exhale. Consider what actions you can take to draw this boundary between you and those in the other circle.

A Vision of the New Way

You need a vision of the way these changed relationships will look. Feel calm and peaceful, wish them well, knowing they will continue to be who they are, and change yourself in relationship to them. For some that may mean ending the relationship. For others, it may mean that certain topics of conversation are off-limits. You might work on not automatically answering the questions of others, just because they ask. There are many ways to create boundaries and clear emotional clutter. All involve honoring yourself, first.

QUESTION OF THE DAY

What is one action you can take to clear your emotional clutter?

 

Enchanted Breaths are the “ahh, the haha, and the aha! of life.”

 

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